"PLAIN Talk for Teens"

A Release Time (off campus) Public School Bible Study Curriculum for TEENS!

To obtain a copy of Plain Talk for Teens, please mail a check or money order for $15.00 to "Public School Outreach" P.O. Box #152 Hatfield, Indiana 47617-0152

Make checks payable to Public School Outreach.

 

Plain Talk For Teens

Curriculum Introduction

How do you get through to teens today? What can you teach them? What will they sit still long enough for? All of these questions have ONE answer! You can do all this by answering THEIR questions!

If you ask teens today what their biggest gripe is, most of them will say, "I can’t get anyone to give me a straight answer to things that I really want to know!"

Teens today want straight answers, not candy coated responses like you would give to a 5-year-old. Believe me, they know the difference, and they won’t sit still for anything less than honest, straightforward answers!

This curriculum was developed to answer tuff questions teens have from a Biblical perspective. "Plain Talk for Teens" was created from questions a group of teens had during a High School Release Time (off campus) Bible study program. These are real questions from real teens with real issues!

It has already been proven that teens will look for the answers to their questions somewhere. Whether through their friends, or television shows and magazines, they will look…..somewhere. Giving them Biblical answers to those questions will prevent them from obtaining answers from the "world".

It is our duty as Christians to reach these teens and keep them from the pollution of the world.

I believe that we have underestimated the intelligence of our youth and therefore have not taken their questions serious in the past.

In "Plain Talk for Teens" you will find lessons that address those questions and issues that face our teens today. Provided here are Biblical answers and solutions straight from God’s Word. Of the many questions teens have, these are some of the most asked questions. This curriculum will hopefully provide insight to the instructor as to what teens want to know, and how to approach some tuff subjects with Biblical responses.

I pray that this curriculum will be a helpful resource in reaching teens in your own Release Time Program.

In Christ,

Adam Bartlett

Director: Alpha & Omega Outreach Ministries / Assistant & Public Relations for Public School Outreach

 

How to use this Curriculum

 

General Format

Each lesson is based on a question and answer type format.

There are a few ways in which you can approach each lesson.

  1. Start by asking your students the "Question".
  2. Find out where they are at concerning this.

    Let them know up front that they have the freedom to be open and honest.

    Discuss why they feel the way they do about the subject.

    Go over bible scripture offered with each lesson, have your students look up scriptures and take turns reading them out loud. This will help them to see that it is not just a ‘teachers opinion’ that they are getting, but the Word of God!

    Offer a time of prayer for repentance of sin, as well as a time to present the Gospel of Salvation through Jesus Christ.

    RELATE IT TO REAL LIFE: Be sure to relate each lesson to your students personally. You can do this by telling a personal story of your own, or a story in a newspaper or magazine. When your students hear that someone really did have to deal with this and used God’s principals to get through it, they will realize that what God says really does work after all!

    Many times a good Christian movie can point out the principals you are talking about.

  3. You can create a "Fill in the Blank" page for your students to fill out.

Give them a moment to answer the question on paper in their own words.

List some key bible scripture that you will be going over and provide a space for them to write the scripture out.

Then come together and discuss it.

Bring in Christian magazines and publications that you don’t mind being cut up.

Allow your students to dig and find stories, advertisements or pictures that have something to do with your lesson topic.

Discuss each item they find. Ask them to explain what their item has to do with the lesson.

Other than Christian publications, you could use local newspapers and turn the lesson into sort of a current event lesson. Have your students choose a few news articles that are of some interest to them. Use highlighters to highlight some do’s and don’ts in the article. For example: If the article was about a family, who has suffered the loss of a loved one because of a drunk driver, highlight the things that are ‘good behavior’ and ‘bad behavior’. Talk about what the Bible says about these things.

*Doing this will give you an opportunity to point out to your students what is ‘Biblical’ and what is ‘Not Biblical’ in each situation. These items will serve as a visual aid.

*NOTE:

Each "Question" in the "ISSUES" section can be incorporated into the first 17 lessons or be taught separately on their own.

The order that the lessons appear in this curriculum does not necessarily mean that they need to be taught in that order. Choose what combination works best for you. If you are unsure about how to organize them, just simply ask your students what they most want to know and go from there.

Some Creative Helpful Hints

There are many ways you can make your lesson time interesting. Search your local Christian Bookstores and Teacher Aid stores for ideas and teaching aid materials.

Below is a list of things you can use to make the time with your teens interesting and relative to their life.

Table of Contents

Introduction Letter and Contact Information

How to use this Curriculum

Question #1 - How do I know there’s a God?

Question #2 - Why are there so many different churches?

Question #3 - What does God look like?

Question #4 - Where did God come from?

Question #5 - How come you can’t hear God talk to you?

Question #6 - Are the other gods real?

Question #7 - When will the world end?

Question #8 - What does Heaven look like?

Question #9 - Why did Jesus have to die?

Question #10 - Do people from other religions go to Heaven?

Question #11 - What does the Bible say about evolution and

dinosaurs?

Question #12 - Why do so many bad things happen if God is so

good?

Question #13 - Where did the different races come from?

Question #14 - Where did the Bible come from?

Question #15 - Why am I on Earth?

Question #16 - How can I know if I am going to go to heaven?

Question #17 - Do I have to stop cussing if I am a Christian?

Issues

Question #18 - Abortion

Question #19 - Drugs/ Smoking

Question #20 - Sex/Dating

Question #21 - Suicide

Question #22 - Homosexuality

Question #23 - Gambling

 

 

Plain Talk for Teens

Lesson #1

Question: How do I know there’s a God?

Opening Discussion:

You may start by asking how many have this very question. You may ask why they feel this way and what they believe the answer is. Let them know that this is a question that we have all asked at one time in our lives.

There are only two choices as to whether or not there is a God; one being that we are here by chance (which entails both the Big Bang theory and all forms of Evolution) and the other is obviously that there was a Creator. The Bible makes it clear that there is a Creator:

Romans 1

19: Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shown it unto them.

20: For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:

Q – Does evolution really give a valid answer for all of creation?

Psalm 14

1: The fool hath said in his heart, there is no God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, and there are none that doeth good.

Job 38 (chapters 38-41 are great)

1: Then the LORD answered Job out of the whirlwind, and said,

2: Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge?

3: Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me.

4: Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if you have understanding.

5: Who hath laid the measures thereof, if you know? Or who hath stretched the line upon it?

6: How are the foundations thereof fastened? Or who laid the corner stone thereof;

7: When the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy?

8: Or who shut up the sea with doors, when it brake forth, as if it had issued out of the womb?

9: When I made the cloud the garment thereof, and thick darkness a swaddling band for it,

10: And break up for it my decreed place, and set bars and doors,

11: And said, Here shall you come, but no further: and here shall thy proud waves be stayed?

12: Hast thou commanded the morning since thy days; and caused the dayspring to know his place;

Questions:

Q – Do these scriptures convince you that there is a God? If not why?

Q – What would it take for you to convince you that there is a God?

At this point you may want to discuss the importance of what faith is and how it applies to believing in God.

You may also use the following for a "logical" approach:

 

What is the Answer?

In today's world everyone wants the answers, everyone needs to know the answer. The world has turned to Science for the answers to life's questions. I have a question for all, even Scientists;

What Makes Your HEART Beat?

I know that there are a lot of scientific minded people out there that would say, "Well your brain does of course". OH, really? What makes your brain function?

Some might say, "Electric impulses and waves that are sent through the brain, which stimulate certain voluntary and involuntary muscles to act in a prescribed way"

Well say what you will, the bottom line is that there is a life force in each and every person on the earth and NO one has found an answer for what makes it operate.

That is outside of the Biblical answer!

Consider this: Your heart beats constantly and consistently every day for as many years as you live. You do not actively make this happen and have absolutely no control over it.

The Bible says that we are "fearfully and wonderfully made"

God has created each and every one of us and has put us here for one reason, "For the Lord takes pleasure in His people" and "for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are created."

We are here to worship and serve the One and only God.

Creation itself and the miracles of our existence prove that God is real and that He has truly invested in His creation.

All God asks of us is that we Believe in Him, Accept the gift He gave in Jesus Christ, and Confess our sins to Him.

We will then realize the reason for our existence and why we live and then God can direct our lives. If you haven't given your heart to Jesus, Do it today for we are not promised tomorrow.

"Today is the day of Salvation"

It is really simple, Ask Jesus to come into your heart and take control and believe that HE died for your sins and His blood that was shed covers those sins. Ask Jesus to control your life from this point forward and get into His Word.

 

Plain Talk for Teens

Lesson # 20 ISSUES

Dating, Sex and Abstinence

Opening Discussion:

What do you think is appropriate for Dating? How far do you think is acceptable? Where do you draw your guidelines from, your friends, parents, who?

What does God say?

God wants the best for us in every area of our lives. This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends. We should date because it is a process of maturing adolescence, not to be popular or for security. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate. The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating.

  1. Guard your heart.
    The Bible tells us to be very careful about giving our affections, because our heart influences everything else in our life.
  2. "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." (Proverbs 4:23)

  3. You are known by the company you keep.
    We also tend to become like the company we keep. This principle is closely related to the first one and is just as important in friendships as in dating.
  4. "Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character." (1 Corinthians 15:33)

  5. Christians should only date other Christians.
    Although it is fine for Christians to have non-Christian friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow Christ with their lives.
  6. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14).

  7. Is it really love?
    1 Corinthians 13:4-7 defines real love. Ask yourself these questions:

Are you patient with each other?
Are you kind to each other?
Are you never envious of each other?
Is your relationship characterized by humility?
Are you never rude to each other?
Are you not self-seeking?
Are you not easily angered with each other?
Do you keep no record of wrongs?
Are you truthful with each other?
Do you protect each other?
Do you trust each other?

If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered "no" to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend. The two main questions to build a healthy relationship on are; "Are you truthful with each other?" and "Do you trust each other?"

How Far is Too Far?

Many teens ask the question, "How far should I go on a date?" Here are some principles that will help you decide what is appropriate behavior on a date.

  1. Does the situation I put myself in invite sexual immorality or help me avoid it?
    1 Corinthians 6:18 says to "flee from sexual immorality." We cannot do this if we are tempting ourselves through carelessness.
  2. What kind of reputation does my potential date have?
    When you accept a date you are essentially saying, "My values are the same as your values." That in itself can put you in a position you may regret later. Remember 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Bad company corrupts good character."
  3. Will there be any pressure to use alcohol or drugs?
    Don't give up your values for a date.
  4. Am I attracting the wrong type of person?
    Make sure that the message you send with your actions doesn't attract people who will lead you to compromise your values.
  5. Am I aware that sin is first committed in the heart?
    Matthew 5:28 says, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
  6. Are you going to the right kind of place for a date?
    Many good intentions have been forgotten because the temptation and opportunity were too great.
  7. Am I doing anything to encourage sexual desire?
    Don't engage in any impure contact that is sexually motivated, such as petting.

If You Have Already Gone Too Far, Why Stop?

  1. God is forgiving.
    1 John 1:9 tells us that God is faithful and just to forgive our sins if we confess them. You can start fresh with God anytime you want to.
  2. God is holy.
    His word tells us that sexual sin is wrong, and He knows what is best.
  3. God is caring.
    God knows that going too far before marriage tends to break up couples and leads to less happy marriages. He knows that most guys do not want to marry a girl who has been intimate with someone else.

What are you looking for?

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NIV)

This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to "find" love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.

"But the LORD said to Samuel, '...The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.'"
1 Samuel 16:7 (NIV)

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

"Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth."
1 John 3:18 (NIV)

Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).

Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.

PRE-MARITAL SEX
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!

IDENTIFYING TRUE LOVE
We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is -- and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person -- then we can say that we are truly "in love." The three keys to that statement are:

We have to...
1) look at the Word of God
2) be completely honest with ourselves
3) understand the level of commitment that comes with true love

My boyfriend wants to have sex. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

You're well aware that sex before marriage is against God's law. You know that it's wrong. I know it's wrong. God tells us it's wrong.

It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in a passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

God again makes it very clear in Ephesians 5:3:

"But among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity...because these are improper for God's holy people."

That's what God tells you about premarital sex. And about this guy -- he doesn't really love you. If he did, would he ask you to do something against God's law when he knows you want to obey God? No. Absolutely not.

He's not thinking about you. He's thinking about his glands and what he wants. And in 1 Corinthians 13:5, in the love chapter, we are told that love "is not self-seeking."

This guy isn't concerned about what's right and wrong. The truth of God's law doesn't matter to him. And again in 1 Corinthians 13:6, God says,

"Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth."

What this guy wants is sex; real love isn't a part of this picture, and that means he cannot love you the way God wants you to be loved.

Something else; "if you didn't have sex with him now you might lose him." That tells me you are more concerned about this guy than finding and obeying God's will for your life. Quite honestly, you are letting this guy become your God. He is first in your life. That is dangerous territory.

God doesn't play games with us. He makes that very clear. Jesus said in Luke 6:46, "Why do you call me, 'Lord, Lord,' and do not do what I say?" And in John 14:15, Jesus said it again, "If you love me, you will obey what I command."

So what you are doing is mocking God. You are saying that you know what God wants you to do, but you aren't willing to do it. You are putting your boyfriend above God. And you are fooling yourself if you think you can fool God.

"Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows," we are told in Galatians 6:7. I can't tell you exactly what you will reap if you turn your back on God and go to bed with this guy or any other guy. That sexual sin could have any number of serious consequences: broken fellowship with God, guilt and shame, loss of dignity, AIDS or some other sexually transmitted disease, low self-esteem, unwanted pregnancy, stirred up desires which can't be fulfilled, and, yes, even fear.

Ask God to give you power and strength and desire to obey Him. Ask God to give you the strength you need to fight this temptation.

1 Corinthians 10:13

"No temptation has seized (me) except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let (me) be tempted beyond what I can bear. But when (I am) tempted, he will also provide a way out so that (I) can stand up under it."

RETURN TO HOME PAGE